“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.”
Music is very important to me. I love hearing a great song whether it’s while I’m exercising, driving, having dinner with a friend or out dancing. A great song can energize me, excite me and make me feel in love with life. It seems to me like anything is possible with the right song and the right play list. But what about the music and the play list that you have circulating through your mind?
Just like music on the radio, there are lots of songs competing for air time in your mind. A variety of messages, thoughts, people and emotions want to get on the airwaves of your mind and take over your beliefs, mood and actions. You, as the leader of your own destiny, get to pick what you want playing and to the extent that you play the right song, you can get better results.
The first step in in this process is to stop and notice what song is playing. What message are you telling yourself? Your brain is the jukebox and can literally play what you order up. For example, if you are feeling kind of blue or unsure of yourself and would like your brain to support this blue or lacking in confidence feeling, then your brain can play the message that supports that mood. Some of the favorite “songs” that I’ve heard leaders play when they are not feeling their best include “I don’t think that I can do it”, or “Don’t mess up” or “Who do you think you are?” And of course there’s always the lyric- “if you take that risk, then you may upset others or look like a fool”. All of these songs are designed to reinforce the mood of “I can’t do it”.
Your actions will dance along to the tune of each song as your mind runs the programmed behaviors that go to the beat. For you to succeed, you have to notice what message is playing in your mind. You can’t change what you don’t notice, so start noticing the message or “song.” If you feel nervous or anxious, then instantly, your mind sends the messages that will support this mental state and set of beliefs. It’s just like picking an actual piece of music to match your mood. Once that music is playing, your actions will follow along consistent with the tone of the message. But unlike walking into a party where the play list has been set, you can choose your inner music. You wouldn’t play a sad song when you’re feeling happy or put on a waltz when you’re in the mood to disco dance. And it’s almost impossible to do the waltz to a disco song and vice- versa. Pick the music that matches what you want to do, what you want to believe and how you aim to behave.
In order to increase the opportunity for success and effectiveness, play the song in your head that matches the goal. How about, “I can do this thing. I’ve done plenty of hard things in my life and I can meet this challenge too”. One of my favorites, “Slow down, breathe and just take the next step before worrying about all the things that I can’t control or may never happen.”
We pick our actual music to help enhance our experience, to help us feel better and to do better. We play energizing music when we want to feel more energy. We play positive music when we are in a good mood or want to get into a good mood. People don’t go running (usually) to Mozart and you won’t find a basketball team pumping themselves up with a pregame dance to a sad slow song. The right music supports the intention and the tone of the event and its success.
Now think about your leadership and the songs that you’ve got playing in your mind. Are you playing the tunes that support you for better success? The right message in your mind will support the better result. You are your leadership DJ. Get the best song, the best thoughts, playing through your mental headphones. You are what you think and what you hear impacts your thoughts. The next time that you hear anything playing in your mind that is not the right song to support your success, just tell yourself “I am the DJ” and play the music that supports you (and others) for a successful leadership journey. For your career, your business, your team and your life – YOU are the DJ. Play only GREAT songs.
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Sending you all warm and positive energy for your leadership journey!
Principal Consultant & Executive Coach
L4 Leadership LLC