Video: Fear as Your Friend: How to use fear as a learning tool.

Greetings Leaders!

Have you noticed how we discuss fear in organizations and in society?  We don’t discuss it and when we rarely do, it’s in the context of conquering it, getting rid of it or making everything safe.  In this video, I offer a different approach.  Please watch this video and learn how to make friends with fear and use it as a short cut for learning in our organizations, teams and our own leadership.

Thank you for watching and for your support.  I hope that you found this video to be of value to you.  Please feel free to share it and also to post your comments on this page.   I’m sending you all positive energy, lots of support and wishes for all the success that you can handle.

your fan, coach and friend,


Larysa Slobodian

L4 Leadership LLC


  1. Bommer's buddy September 15, 2014 at 3:44 pm #

    Thank you Larysa for creating such a poignant video about a topic that we often ignore & fail to even acknowledge – especially in work settings. The first step as you point out is acknowledging that there’s fear and using it to explore our assumptions, our presumed limitations & the possibility / probability of the dire outcomes that our mind conjures up…

    I loved how you urge the increasing the capacity of courage. Courage isn’t the absence of fear, rather it is the conviction & judgment that our hopes, dreams and goals are more important.

    Your point that in the end: most of our fears aren’t true, do not come to pass & our beliefs about fears aren’t true is also spot on. Growing up, we were taught that what you may think to be snake in the dark, may actually be a curled up burnt rope when seen in the light of day.

  2. Larysa Slobodian September 15, 2014 at 3:52 pm #

    Thank you Boomer’s Buddy! I really appreciate you taking the time to watch the video and also for your thoughtful comments. We all feel a bit scared from time to time and avoiding the fear has never helped me get better. And I love your point that our hopes, dreams and goals are more important than our fears. Beautiful!

    Larysa Slobodian
  3. Lisa September 15, 2014 at 6:57 pm #

    Larysa, I really liked the ‘fear as a friend’ analogy. I treat fear like a mortal enemy most days. I, therefore, miss the opportunity that fear presents. I also think that if you risk looking silly, you not only open a window of opportunity and courage, but you demonstrate that you are human. I am going to be a better friend to fear, and will take fear out for a cup of coffee (or glass of wine) to discuss our relationship. I believe that I have missed many opportunities and wasted too much time/energy hiding from fear and treating fear like the class bully. Thanks for the insight.

  4. Larysa Slobodian September 15, 2014 at 7:26 pm #

    Fantastic Lisa! Taking your fear out for coffee (or wine) sounds like a great plan. Thank you for your wonderful and thoughtful comment.

    Larysa Slobodian
  5. Mitch September 15, 2014 at 9:02 pm #

    This is great Larysa! Speaking of fear…I would be fearful to put a 6 min video into the world. I always second guess myself. It’s so encouraging to see you putting yourself out there in new ways(video). There are some excellent messages, tips, quotes and examples. Nicely done. Still left wondering what tends to scare the pants off of you? Ha!
    Thanks for the inspiration and great info. Loved the fear graphic on the whiteboard. I moved through a lot of fear over the past year with WiRL so this really resonates for me.

  6. Larysa Slobodian September 15, 2014 at 10:41 pm #

    Thank you Mitch! Well you do things that would scare me. I’m inspired by your bravery. Way to go with WIRL. Thanks for reading and for the comment.

    Larysa Slobodian
  7. Sabina September 16, 2014 at 1:46 pm #

    Larysa – well done – fear is there to stay and if we bury it, it doesn’t mean it’s gone. Just that we’ve used numbing and other distracting behaviors in the meantime.

  8. Larysa Slobodian September 16, 2014 at 6:32 pm #

    Good point Sabina. Burying fear will just leave it for us to find another day. Thank you for your comment and for watching!

    Larysa Slobodian

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